Nicholas J. Hayes

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Hey man, congrats on starting your freshman year! Here is some advice for any guy out there, but take what you want from this. Some of this could apply to any freshman girls too. 

  1. You will miss your parents after you move in. Even if you’re a self-proclaimed “tough guy”, the sight of your parents leaving you in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar people, is both exciting and slightly scary at the same time.
  2. You will meet other guys who will really make you hate your own gender. Everyone knows that one guy who tends to make everyone else look bad. Your hall or dorm will most likely gain a bad reputation due to his destructive, outlandish behavior.
  3. You will meet plenty of girls; so don’t settle for just anyone.  Chances are your school has just as many, if not more girls than guys. Find the one who makes you happy, not the one that gets mad when you breathe. You deserve nothing but the best, bud.
  4. Shot-gunning the most beers is not as cool as you think. Everyone is up for a good time, but no need to try and show off. You don’t want to be “that guy” who drank a little too much, a little too fast. Have a good time, and enjoy your hangover breakfast the next morning piecing together your night with your friends. You don’t want the easy puzzle that is “I laid beside the toilet all night.”
  5. Dressing nicely for class is beneficial to your grade, and your success. I understand…sometimes sweatpants and a t-shirt sound better than an oxford and khakis. However, professors like when students look like they actually want to be there, and you’ll become accustomed to having to look presentable when you make the inevitable plunge into “the real world.”
  6. You won’t escape high-school style drama. No matter the size of your school, there will always be those people who will feel the need to start drama and rumors about stupid things. Don’t get yourself wrapped up with those people, and if you find yourself falling victim, walk away. It’ll be the best decision you can make.
  7. Your hometown squad may lose some members. After being away for months, you’ll find that people lose touch. You get caught up with your new life at school, which is completely fine, as long as you don’t forget where you came from. Just be aware that some people grow apart when their lives change.
  8. Your first friends at school will not be the same friends by the end of the school year. You will naturally become friends with some of the first people you meet, and maybe even some of the people they introduce to you. However, you’ll find that some people are really good at first impressions, and not so good at being a friend.
  9. You will procrastinate, but don’t make it a habit. We all have done it- put a long paper off until what seems like the last minute. Hours of research and typing, crammed into a late night library session coupled with cups of coffee and energy bars, will make you hate your life. Plus ten years down the road, you’ll learn that all those late nights, aged you faster than you’d like.
  10. Balance both your social life, and your personal time. It’s great to be with friends and enjoy some of the memories you’ll make.  However, remember that it’s healthy to have your own time. Whether that’s going to the gym to work off some stress, or laying in bed watching Blue Mountain State on Netflix, you do you. 

Most of all, BE YOURSELF. College is a new start, and allows you to be the person you want to be. Don’t feel the need to impress everyone. If they don’t like what you have to bring to the table, they aren’t really your friends. 

Hoping some of you took this advice to heart